In our previous segments on stacking, we discussed the basic elements of what comprises a stack and went in-depth into the “opening” component. Today we’ll focus on the second phase: The tease.

Teasing is an art form unto itself. It requires practice, calibration, and a sense of humor. The purpose of this phase is to convey playfulness, give value, and spike buying temperature.

In the opening phase, you’re starting a conversation socially by directing them to be friendly, and if necessary, putting social pressure on them to open.

In the teasing phase, you’re pumping buying temperature and showing a bit of your personality.

For those of you who haven’t read “Get the Girl!,” buying temperature is a person’s emotional state in relation to compliance. The term is taken from sales, where a person’s “buying temperature” refers to their relative willingness to make a purchase. An interesting phenomenon with buying temperature (BT) is that it’s transferrable, both in sales and in pickup. For example, if you’re selling cars and pump a customer’s buying temperature by getting them excited, that BT will either dissipate naturally or transfer if you don’t close the sale. In other words, your customer will simply buy a car from someone else if you don’t close them. In pickup, it operates the same. If you pump BT, it can instantly transfer to someone else if she gets distracted or if you leave.

Contrast this with attraction, which is a hard-wired emotion towards an individual due to the flipping of attraction switches.

Although there is an overlap, different things generate different responses. Generally speaking, BT is spiked through laughter or a changing of emotional state while attraction is spiked through demonstrating higher S&R value (credit: Mystery, Lovedrop, et al). It may help to think of attraction/BT as the female equivalent of a male’s love/horniness emotions. Love is his attraction for a specific girl. Horniness is a fleeting emotional and physical state.

This distinction is important because it helps to explain different reactions and how the two affect each other. For example, you may be wondering what the benefit of BT is when attraction doesn’t have the inherent disadvantage of being transferrable. The answer is that BT is easier to create in a loud nightclub because it requires less compliance. A quick, funny line can spike BT. Attraction generally takes much more work. Additionally, BT usually leads to attraction because of the backwards rationalization principle.

Here’s how it works: BT can be attained fairly quickly through humor and kino. The newly acquired BT will them allow you to get more and more compliance from the girl because of her emotional state. This compliance will then trigger attraction because she backwards rationalizes her actions as being due to attraction.

Let’s look at a real world example. You open a set and go into a PureKino™ routine which makes her laugh and gets her used to touching you. You’ve spiked her BT. She starts touching you back now. You put her arm on your leg and she keeps it there. You ask her what she has going for her besides her looks and she answers. A few minutes later her subconscious begins to question why she’s touching you, why she’s qualifying herself to you, and why she’s spending so much time with you. The only logical rationalization, of course, is because she’s attracted to you. Thus, she convinces herself of her own attraction. Combined with embedded story DHVs and actual demonstrations of elements such as preselection or leader of men, her attraction level skyrockets.

Now that we understand these core concepts, let’s take a look at the mechanics of teasing.

Teasing generally will follow a pattern of playful misinterpretation, push-pull, or the setup-punch combination from standup comedy. A quick tease following the social opener cements you as a calibrated, funny, charismatic individual.

The tease is usually directed at the loudest girl in the group, or the girl who responds most to you when you open. If no one stands out or none of them react (but they heard you), then either tease a girl at random or tease the entire group.

You should all have read the Get the Girl! book by now (and if you haven’t, do so) so I won’t repeat the examples given there, but there are countless different ways to tease. Here are a few of my favorites:

• “Oooo…if we were in jail together, you’d be the one organizing the jailbreak” (Credit: Mehow)
• “Oh you’re the bad one…I probably need a note from my mom before I even talk to you.” (Credit: Cosmo AKA Robbie Kramer, formerly of PU101)
• “Omg you guys are trouble, I can tell. You have that evil gleam in your eyes. You’re about to start a fight with the girls in miniskirts in the corner any minute now.”
• “You guys are so…adork-able….you’re like my little sisters.”

With some field time, teases should start coming natural to you. Most of our teases are discovered because we’ve randomly said them in field and then written them down for use later.

If you analyze the structure of the examples I’ve given you or the ones in the book, you’ll be able to come up with your own.

What I would suggest is to run stock material until you’ve got your delivery down. That way you can eliminate the variables of bad material. If you know that what you’re saying is good, then you can focus solely on body language, tonality, and subcommunication. Once you have those non-verbals solid, you can go back and create your own material.

That’s teasing, in a nutshell. We go into much more depth in our GTG Live! Events and Infield Intensive boot camps, but these are the fundamentals.

After reading each installment of this multi-part article, you should be writing out that element in your stack. That way, by the time you read the last segment, you’ll have a fully-fleshed-out routine stack ready for field-testing. Creating a stack is time consuming…break it up into smaller chunks and you’ll have it done in no time.

Next up we’re going to talk about the nuances of the false time constraint and transition phases. Stay tuned.

P.S.: If you have comments, questions, concerns, or death threats, please leave a comment, post in our forums, or send me an email. Address is pretty easy to figure out…my name (no spaces) at mehow.tv.

Be social,

–DJ Fuji
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