In the previous segment on our multi-part article on routine stacking, we took a look at some of the foundational concepts behind stacking and what makes it so effective when learning pickup.

Today we’ll delve into the actual structure and begin to break down each phase of the stack, fleshing out the details and giving actual field-tested examples.

The basic layout of the Mehow Method stack follows 5 relatively simple phases: Social opener, Tease, False Time Constraint (FTC), Transition, and Attract material (OTFTA). This setup mimics the natural progression of a solid interaction, starting with the approach and moving through attraction. The goal, of course, is to “naturalize” this stack into a smooth, seamless conversation so that without knowing the material, it becomes impossible to tell when one is stacking or vibing.

The first step is obviously the opener. We advocate the social opener because it’s short, allows you to transition quickly, and doesn’t require you to have a pretext for talking to people. While it’s important to be able to interact on every level of the indirect-direct spectrum, the social direct paradigm is extremely versatile and can handle 90% of all night time interactions. It also allows the user to “work the room” and even open adjacent sets without needing new openers or routines.

The classic social direct opener is something along the lines of the following:

“Hey…you guys seem fun. I had to come say hi.”

Interestingly enough, several other well-known pickup “gurus” have also recently started opening in this manner. This opener is particular well-suited for low-to-medium energy bars or lounges. It communicates that you are a social person, that you follow your emotions and instincts, and that you are accustomed to people reacting positively to you. It also puts social pressure on the group to respond positively, as you’ve directed them on how to act (“fun”), and you’ve made it socially awkward for them to give you a negative response right off the bat.

For higher energy venues such as dance clubs, louder bars, or in sets where the energy level is high, Mehow’s “wooooo” opener works better. There’s nothing special about the word “woooo.” In fact, the word itself is nonsensical. What makes it work is your sub-communication. The delivery behind “woooo” indicates that you are the happy, fun, party guy. You are taking advantage of the stereotype of the fun, friendly, drunk guy who talks to everyone at the bar and gives value. Variations that I also use include “yoooooo” and “whaaat’s uuuuup?”. While correct delivery is next to impossible to communicate through text, you should be performing this opener as if you were greeting friends you haven’t seen in a while.

The general rule about direct/indirect is that the more direct your opener, the more you must nail the delivery. For example, an interesting indirect opener can many times work with botched delivery. But a super direct (sexual direct) opener relies entirely on your sub-communication and thus, requires near-perfect technique. Social direct is similar in this fashion and is fairly dependent on a solid open. Some things to keep in mind when opening in this manner:

-Smile. This is universally important but especially here. You MUST walk in with a giant smile on your face as if you were greeting long-lost friends. Do this in front of a mirror or video tape yourself to see what you look like.

-Be loud. Almost NO ONE is too loud. In order to command the attention of a group, everyone needs to be able to hear you clearly. If they can’t, they assume you’re timid and lack confidence.

-Do not apologize. This is another key point. Do not apologize with your verbals or your body language. Do not open with “excuse me” or look at your feet when you walk in. Do not walk in a semi-circle into the group or loiter in their proximity before you approach. Walk straight up to the group with a confident swagger.

-Kino right off the opener. Generally you’ll find groups of people standing in circles or semi-circles. Try to approach near the biggest opening in the group so that you aren’t talking to someone’s back. They’ll generally see you coming if you do this correctly. This is important as it’s easy to startle people if you kino from directly behind. The way to kino is to simultaneously touch the arm of the two people closest to you. Do this GENTLY with the back of your hand. Note that this is a GENTLE touch, especially when you’re touching women. No back-slaps, no forearm grabs, and if your touch throws them off balance AT ALL, you’re doing it too hard. The kino should be implicit and subtle.

-Approach immediately. Follow the 1-second rule. People are constantly watching you in the venue. If you hesitate or stall, sets stale because they subconsciously register your sub-communicated demonstrations of lower value (DLVs).

-DO NOT LEAN IN. Because you’re walking directly up to a group and facing them, it’s easy to invade what Lance Mason calls their “psychological space.” Lean back to compensate for this. If they can’t hear you, speak louder. If you can’t hear them (and most of the time, what they say at the beginning isn’t that important), point to your ear so that they lean in to YOU. You’ll feel the urge to instinctively lean toward the group when you open. Resist it.

As you can tell, there’s much more to an opener than most people realize. The good thing is that when you nail the opener, the rest of the sarge becomes easy. There are basically two directions that your interactions can go in when you open. If you open correctly, the rest of the sarge is fairly easy. You basically just avoid major screw ups from there on out. But if you botch the delivery of the opener, you’ll be in damage control right off the bat and will basically be unable to advance the sarge until you fix the screw-up. This is also why having a practiced and rehearsed stack is so critical.

Next up in the series we’ll cover the follow-up tease…and why it’s arguably as important as the opener.

Stay tuned. Same bat time, same bat channel.

Out.

-Fuji
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