On New Years Eve: How to Screen The Ten Second Attraction Way, the Truth About “Screening Game,” and Commitment
It’s been a good holiday so far. I got to spend a lot of time with the family. I’m driving up to Vegas tomorrow morning to rage it up for two days for new years before I come back and refocus and lock myself in my house again for another month (except for the Orlando bootcamp).
More importantly I’m really, really exited about 09. The innovation shall continue. We’re going to be bringing the heat in a major new way. We’re going to be expanding on the solid core that is the “10 Second Attraction System TM.” If you think we’ve innovated so far, you “ain’t seen nothing yet.” In 09 is when all the stuff I’ve been working on for the last two years shall come together. And its going to totally and completely change the “community.”
Anyway, before I leave for Vegas I wanted to thank each and every one of our customers for making 08 a great year. You guys rock. You make it possible for me and the team to spend literally thousands of ours on research, development, and field testing. Recession smessession, on this end the good work continues and the people have voted with their wallets. The 10SSA launch was our biggest one ever (we will be shutting it down soon so we don’t have the stock issues we ran into in the past).
So I wanted to give back and tell you how to use 10SSA to screen for a quick f-close to sex on New Years Eve.
In 10 Second Attraction we use 8 different 10 Second Element Types along with multiple implementation of those elements to have her lifting burning cars, giant boulders and buildings to get with you.
One of the main elements we use are Sexual Innuendo Elements. There is more to this but I want to show you how to use them to screen in the next few paragraphs.
But first off, lets talk about screening vs. non-screening game.
A lot of guys in the community (BradP and Sinn are two examples) are heavy believers in “blow me or blow me out game.” So they go in with guns blazing right off the opener to test for sexual compatibility. If they get sexual compatibility then they screen for logistics and continue the set. You can process a lot of sets quickly that way and find one you can take home. This results in a ton of SNLs.
Sounds great doesn’t it?
It’s great when you are the type of guy that women are naturally somewhat into based on your subcoms etc. It’s also great when you aren’t looking for “the one” but just your nightly hookup.
But if you are just starting out, your subcoms will be off, so its not likely that women you meet will make a subconscious decision to sleep with you within the first minute of meeting you.
Also, if you are looking for higher end all around women, they only sometimes like you right off the bat. A lot of them will take a bunch of work and may not be down with Sexual Innuendo right away.
Finally, if you are disqualified (old, bald, pale – like me – for example) there aren’t a ton of sets where the girl will be all over me right away although that does happen.
And … if you run screening game you get blown out A TON in the beginning. Which is generally discouraging for newbie’s (which is why a lot of “natural game” people drop out) and it doesn’t get you a lot of practice with difficult sets. The lack of practice, in turn, makes you a weaker closer on the girls that are into you. Trust me, every set gets difficult at times, regardless of how “on” it is initially. I’ve never really had sex that was straight “easy” even though it happened in just 2 hours. Every set, no matter how brief it is before the sex will get complicated even if only for a bit. You have to know how to handle the complications.
This is why we don’t teach screening game to guys right off the bat. The benefits of being able to own almost every set as far as you can take it (which is a philosophy me and Mystery share) are countless.
You see, “screening game” should NOT be a dogmatic game choice you stick to every night you go out. It should be a TACTICAL DECISION that you make on the ground like the Marines do. You should have the ability to change your decision set to set.
If you just want to get laid and your game is pretty far along and you are out on a night that women are likely to get freaky then screening game is the way to go. Otherwise stick with non-screening game.
New Years is one night where I will screen like a mad man.
Here is how to do it using our methods.
I’m not a fan of huge initial Sexual Innuendo material in either the screening or non-screening scenario. Run you Attraction Phase (either GTG! or GAM methods) as normal. Then as soon as you are isolated very quickly (within 2 minutes) drop some Sexual Innuendo to see how she reacts. One way to do that is to Misinterpret (there are 5 more styles in the 10SSA book with dozens and dozens of original examples) something she said as sexual. For example here is a brief interchange from a set I ran on the plane while flying back from Xmas in Virginia:
(we’re talking about Cameron Diaz)
Me: “Cameron Diaz is NOT HOT.”
Her: “Um … OK … I like her.”
Me: “She’s an ex-hotty, she doesn’t age well, it’s her freakishly wide space alien smile that gets her all her gigs these days.”
Her: (laugh) “Ok … you are right … I saw a picture of her parents … they aren’t hot either.”
Me: “Look … I’m hot even though my parents are ugly. So what are you saying?”
Her: “No I wasn’t talking about you, I was talking about Cameron Diaz (big smile).” (note how she’s implicitly accepting that I’m hot so I misinterpret that as if she said something very sexual to me).
Me: “Lady … just because you chat me up for a few minutes and are all sweet doesn’t mean I’m just going to hop in the lav with you in a minute.” <<<< Sexual Innuendo: Misinterpretation.
Her: “That would be hot.”
(and we continue, I got her number – there was no way to actually logistically pull this off on this aircraft and you never know if she’s actually down for that sort of thing until you try it).
Bottom line if she reacts positively with an IOI when you drop sexual innuendo then this girl is a good candidate for a same night pull on New Years. If she reacts negatively, then you can continue the set or find another one. That is your tactical decision (it SHOULD NEVER be a dogmatic choice!!!) – who knows… she could be your future wife and pull even though she won’t f-close that night. She could also be a girl that you only want to have quick sex with in which case you should definitely eject (cause it will be easier to find a girl that is down for quick sex then to plow on this girl for quick sex - generally i only want to put a ton of effort into a more difficult sarge if the girl is worth it to me. Some girls are so hot I'll plow no matter what their personality though). I have slept with dozens of women that weren’t down with me initially and I never talked dirty to at all or were not into it when I did. Many of them, after the fact, expressed that they “Didn’t expect to be doing THIS, with ME.” A few resulted in long-term relationships. IMHO, any game style that prohibits you from making possibly beneficial tactical decisions on the ground is straight WRONG.
If she’s down with the Sexual Innuendo then screen her for logistics (“Who did you come here with?” and “What are your plans for later?” – not at the same time – you don’t want to come off like your just here to shag.) If logistics and sexual innuendo are both green lit then go for it.
Before I go, I wanted to add a quick word about commitment. If you are reading this blog you are somewhat committed to change already. But the biggest problem we see with our students is that they slack or totally stop doing their self improvement. Literally, there is NO ONE that I haven’t been able to help as long as they are committed. The reason is that our training and systems don’t rely on pre-screening of girls that are into you or dogma of any kind. We simply teach you how to deliver the goods to her every time regardless of her situation. The 5 for 5 is a myth but you can take a lot of sets way farther then you ever thought possible, like into bed. But it does take practice. I have seen transformations happen very quickly but you need to commit.
The economy sort of sucks right now, so it’s a good time to work less and self improve more. The return on time investment from what we teach you is astronomical, compared to busting ass at the office. Make 09 your year of “no excuses.” Get the girl of your dreams and marry her hot ass or simply become the chick pleasing Orgasm-A-Tron. One way out of a recession is to find your self a sugar momma (hey its easy, I’m not kidding). There is a lot of wealth in the world right now that is just sitting on the side waiting for the right guy to come along and buy you loads of exotic vacations and Mai-Tais.
All of it is possible as long as you commit. If you don’t commit to our school of thinking commit to someone else’s. It’s just really important that you commit to SOMETHING positive.
-m
ps and now there is no excuse to not learn from us, even if you are just into natural game. www.10secondattraction.com is the ultimate and best description of natural game ever written. Plus the audio book (btw, the print version and audio book both contain unique extra value, the audio and print editions aren’t identical – i’m always adding in a ton extra. i give value, it’s what i do.) ships immediately so you will be on your way to “supernatural” game before the New Year even gets going. The 10SSA is going away in 2 weeks roughly so don’t say I didn’t warn you and when it comes back it will be more expensive (production costs on this are sky high cause I over-delivered as usual, i need to go find an over-delivery support group to deal with my problem).
pps And when you marry the uber hotty and everyone asks how you did it just smile and say, “um … I don’t know … this sort of stuff just happens to me I guess.” That’s what I tell guys that walk up to me and don’t already know me as a PUA.
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December 31st, 2008 at 5:15 am
Hey MeHow
I ordered the 10ssa and I have done the payment. Any idea when i will be available? Is there going to be an electronic version (pdf) of the book? If not, How about a prevew of the book like the 4 pages you released?
December 31st, 2008 at 5:23 am
It’s print only. CD set is shipping this week (Fri … maybe monday) the printed book about 3 weeks later. There is no ebook. That’s not how we roll.
December 31st, 2008 at 5:27 am
the only way to get advance copies of anything is to be in the MCI (instructor) and unleashed and unleahsed lite programs.
MCI – email joz@mehow.tv for app info and region availability.
Unleashed – http://www.getthegirlunleashed.com
Unleashed Lite – http://www.getthegirlunleashed.com/lite
those guys have had 10ssa for a month now
-m
December 31st, 2008 at 6:12 am
Her: “That would be hot.”
I doubt that.
Women always show the least amount of interest possible. Unless I’ve done x.
You saw this with Hypnotica. I don’t beleive she said that Mehow.
Otherwise this all seems like reasonable, fairly clever, stuff.
I don’t much like screening, or giving compliments for genunine things I like. Doesn’t get me anywhere. She has to consult friends/brothers/fathers. And she becomes unsure. Marination time is not helpful in a cold approach where I may never see her again.
I’m thinking we need more Sinn style qualifying scripts, which steer her towards behaving in a manner to help get a close.
To praise any manifestation of behaviour which is helpful.
And all this needs to be made robotic, so its ready to say the instant she shows any behaviour which is helpful.
December 31st, 2008 at 8:28 am
@Goose: I’ve had women say stuff like that to me… a lot. Women don’t always show the least amount of interest possible… they just won’t show much interest if it’s socially risky to do so. But if she’s in a conversation where nobody she knows is listening in, you’d be surprised what women will say with very little provocation.
December 31st, 2008 at 10:26 am
Agree with Tony. On a flight where no one she knows is around, women will get freaky. IM chat a woman and the same thing happens. If you can find a woman who is new to the area and going out, the same thing applies, you can pull very quickly. Once women get with their social group, then all the anti-slut defense and “Don’t make the group look bad” mechanics start coming up.
December 31st, 2008 at 11:50 am
Hey Fellas
Listen Im just Wishing you all a happy New Year and A Fucking great One at that. Its snowing here In NY hard, could shit get any worse. Doesnt Matter though I’ll be out with Bells on.
But Hey to all the guys who are confused about escalating and always let their logical minds ruin all thats possible while there in front of a girl, ” fear and excitement is the same emotion”
Its better to try than not have tried at all. Fuck it were all Rockstars.
Thanks Mehow for 08….. 09 better be bigger. or else I’ll put you and Fuji in my pocket lmao..
Have fun tonight guys…. be social…. And lets get the girl
Happy New Year all
Neo
December 31st, 2008 at 12:42 pm
That paragraph towards the end about commitment hit hardest for me; I’ve known about this stuff for two years, yet other than a couple of girlfriends and a few lays, I’ve got nothing to show for it. I even went on a bootcamp with Mystery in london, which REALLY motivated me at first, but now i’ve just gone back to my old ways and i’ve barely improved at all.. and I hate going out by myself to sarge.
Its so hard to commit without that constant motivation.
December 31st, 2008 at 1:10 pm
Viking speaks the truth… and Mehow, I *LOVE* the fact that you’re one of the few guys out there putting his shit in print in real actual books, so major props there… but this industry is one in which the whole “Charge whatever the market will bear.” thing has gotten way the fuck out of control…
I get that Mehow goes out in field on a nearly constant basis to test new shit out. That new shit results in new books, and he deserves to be paid for the R&D time that went into creating those books. So inflated prices what I saw at the bookstore in college are to be expected.
But I bought *ALL* my books, every semester, for less than $400. I can’t really justify that kind of expense on a book, unless my copy will arrive on golden tablets, borne aloft by topless Swedish twins that walked straight out of a Dethklok music video. If it will, then sign me up!
December 31st, 2008 at 1:18 pm
TonyS: Yep, too bad my comment was removed from the website in about 2 minutes!
December 31st, 2008 at 1:48 pm
HAPPY NEW YEAR Mehow!!!! I’ll be practicing MY game!
~Martini
December 31st, 2008 at 2:06 pm
Hey mehow,
i’m learning this stuff and having bought your 10SA just a few days ago… i’m still waiting. i’m commited to life changing and i’ll likely write a review or something.
Nice blog post and keep on helping us AFCs out there. Have a great new year!
December 31st, 2008 at 2:47 pm
I know I have commitment issues like Sam S. Hypnotica said to make pickup easy, not a chore. He said to me, “I HATE THE FUCKING CLUBS. They’re annoying. They’re too much work.” I discovered the same after two bootcamps. So for ‘09 I’ll be putting myself in situations where I’ll constantly be around women. Not sure where or what, but ‘09 will be a time of commitment and change.
Oh, and Hypnotica said, “If you’re just 2 or 3 women a day, there’s not much to work with.”
“So how many different women do I need to be around a day?”
“10.”
“10?!”
“10. You have to get used to that female energy.” I forgot what else he said, but that’s a good structure to work with.
And I eagerly await the 10SSA system.
December 31st, 2008 at 4:21 pm
goose, I understand your skepticism.
Before 10SSA I rarely had girls making sexual statements to me. The night I went out after reading the MCI preview of 10SSA I had a girl telling me “Don’t think you can out sex me!” within maybe 20 minutes. Girls are way sexual, you just have bring it out of them, and demonstrate you’re a guy they can get sexual with.
The Sinn framing stuff is totally money too, and it fits right in with 10SSA. But don’t start drinking the haterade or you’re gonna miss out on some amazing stuff here.
December 31st, 2008 at 4:45 pm
Thank you, Captain Awesome
January 1st, 2009 at 5:43 am
Can someone tell me what the 10SA product is?
From what I gather, it’s just a bunch of pre made statements that carry an innuendo – a pick up tool box if you will.
I hope im wrong
January 1st, 2009 at 7:44 am
Andre,
check the previous blog entry. it is a “tool box” if you mean a tool box that magically makes women go home or bounce with you just about every night … lol. seriously, the previous blog entry has a ton of content that will clue you in.
-m
January 1st, 2009 at 8:27 am
Hi Mehow,
Happy New Year from me and all my crew.
Can I interest you in performing at the Real Man Conference ‘09 this year?
I hope we can start ‘09 with your commitment on that.
Cu,
Pim aka SmoothDoc
January 1st, 2009 at 11:33 am
The Real Man Conference?? lol what is THAT? I just laughed out loud
January 1st, 2009 at 7:24 pm
Mehow,
I just wanted to let you know that I’m happy I looked at your new year’s mail. I have a very similar experience with respect to women. I, too, hurt girls because of my own insecurities. As you, I could have lost my virginity a lot earlier with a girl I liked a lot, who liked me a lot, and who did all the seduction work for me, just because I did not want to “have my first time” with a girl who’s not “perfect”. Well, like you, it took me a couple of years and painful experiences to realise that “perfect” only exists within ourselves.
It’s an interesting insight. There’s probably much more to you than your concentration on “outer game” seems to indicate
Happy New Year!
January 2nd, 2009 at 1:28 am
this is the manifest of the “master of pua” johnny and his promise that after 1th January he won t be on forums,etc
http://www.revolution31.com/forum/showthread.php?p=14507#post14507
but of course on 31th December is here,1th January is here and so on:)) with all “the ladies”how do u find the time?:)))))))))))))))
January 2nd, 2009 at 2:04 am
good to know but no one s cares about Johnny here.
Happy New Year M. and for all the readers of this blog!!!!!!!
January 3rd, 2009 at 9:26 am
So I had RSD Ciarnan on our lair for a while and people were trying his apocalypse opener, where you open with an SOI, saying ‘I think you’re really sexy’ or something, I forget. (I think he infiltrated your forums at one point Mehow).
Anyway these were the outcomes to Ciarnans SNL game:
PUA: apocalypse opener, + I want you to come back to my place/
45 year old woman: why would I want to do that?
[request to run A1-A3]
PUA [French guy with good clothes, macking an AMerican traveller who is returning to US the next day]:
gets a make out.
PUA asks if she wants to go back to his place.
HB: I need trust and comfort first.
[request to run c1-c3]
Ciarnan didn’t have anything to help these difficulties, but he was very busy.
Anyway that was the apocalypse. It was toasty.
Other’s experience with SNL stuff?
How did people get on with Mehow’s script?
January 3rd, 2009 at 9:31 am
Hey Matt good to hear it. It’s too late for me. I have hater aid-aholia. Though I do love Mehow. He may be a, no THE nerd King but he works like every other PU company glued together.
If it is working for you, you could write a review you know. Detailing what is working for you, reviews with people applying stuff are rare (bloggers don’t apply things) and valueable. And I’m sure Mehow would appreciate it.
Keep on truckin’
January 3rd, 2009 at 10:23 am
I really like the sexual misinterpretation stuff.
Really game comes down to 4 key things for me:
-Vibing/Free Association
-Selfamusement and Playfulness
-Power Position
-Escalation, Sexuality and Ambiguity
That’s all the “ingredients” I look for. More than trying to throw each one of them in separately, I try to tune into a certain rythm or vibe that makes all the elements flow from there, define the frame and the roles of the interaction etc.
I am a big believer of keeping things simple
January 3rd, 2009 at 1:20 pm
Hey there, whats up with the support? I tryed to email it a few times these days, but no response at all.
January 3rd, 2009 at 2:59 pm
Mehow, when you throw in some sexual element or statement of intent, do you think it is useful to “throw and go”?? If you change the topic and go onto something else for a little bit, it gives her less of a chance to object and it makes her therefore passively accepts the frame more easily. What are your thoughts on that? I know you are very busy on the launch and stuff but I would really appreciate your insight. Cheers.
January 3rd, 2009 at 9:40 pm
Mehow:
[I say that but I'm not an active PUA person so quite possibly there are quite a few decent guys I just don't know about. Besides I really don't like to judge, despite what it seems like in my languange structure]. Your almost zen-like absence of ego is probably one of the very few things you may have in common with Eric (and I’d bet most people would assume Eric has a pretty healthy ego, when in reality he has a very healthy self-esteem, but almost zero ego, which is really a huge difference). You are also the only PUA apart from Eric from which I got real value. Generally this does not specifically limit itself to interactions with women, I really don’t have too many issues left in that department and I got there on my own before I knew of the whole game/PUA thing at all. Neverthless some of the things you put in your GTG had pretty extreme ramifications/interpretations that really cross-fertilised all social interactions regardless of context.
I know why I like you now. You are one of the very FEW PUAs with very little bullshit. Your statement that 5 for 5 is a myth is spot on, yet you explain the why brilliantly. You are completely different from Eric (Hypnotica) whom is probably the only other PUA I actually respect, but you make it in my top 2 of the “community”. Because basically there’s only 2 of you that are worthwhile
Your ability to “systemize” complex social dynamics is really outstanding and it’s a skill I respect, as essentially I respect any high-level of skill in pretty much anything.
I do have one criticism (I am a very strong mismatcher with exceptions so forgive me my seemingly antagonistic stance if you can. Or don’t…but if you can at least ponder my point!) Your comment regarding the using of women to fund your lifestyle….
Seems wrong to me. Why should any human being mooch off another human being in a dishonest/not-open manner? It would be more ethical to my mind to suggest to your followers to become male prostitutes. Nothing wrong with that the way I see it. But to manipulate another human’s emotions for economic gain seems wrong to me. Maybe I misunderstand your intention or maybe you’re joking but that’s my view.
The other thing is…the $400 for your 10SSA. I honestly DO understand the economies of scale and the logistics and the nature of the time-life of your (every) PUA products, neverthless I cannot justify it for myself at present despite the fact I am honestly dying of curiosity regarding your systemisation of something I have been doing myself for a while. Please don’t get me wrong. If I had problems getting with hot, smart, sexual women I WOULD justify the $400. But I don’t, so mine is really just mainly a very vivid intellectual curiosity towards the work of someone whose skill I deeply respect at an endeavour (human interaction) which is ultimately an essential life skill.
)
If you’re ever in London and if I can trade you a skill set I am good at (1. neurological rewiring at a physiological level tied to using your autonomous nervous system for survival in extreme conditions, 2. hypnosis for blow-out of deep imprints (below subconscious level and formed before you had language) or 3. weapon use under close protection conditions (yes guns!)) for a copy, do get in touch (I won’t hold my breath though
And I wish you a GREAT and very prosperous 2009 and hope one day our paths will cross in the real world too.
January 4th, 2009 at 10:43 am
“Mehow, when you throw in some sexual element or statement of intent, do you think it is useful to “throw and go”?? If you change the topic and go onto something else for a little bit, it gives her less of a chance to object and it makes her therefore passively accepts the frame more easily. What are your thoughts on that? I know you are very busy on the launch and stuff but I would really appreciate your insight. Cheers.”
in 10ssa we don’t throw and go much. its about letting her wallow in and aborb the sexuality. its more like:
bold sexual statement
3 second vacuum
if she responds then we roll with that
if she doesn’t then we throw something else at her (it could be and frequently is sexual again)
G, thanks for the props. i’m ok with the reverse gold digging comment because what i’m not saying is to be fake about anything. if a woman likes you and you are genuine and awesome to her then her wanting to buy you stuff is her choice. its not manipulation. people want different things out of relationships and they only get them when they present sufficient value to the other person. getting stuff .. be it love, sex, money, or whatever else … is a free will choice.
-m
ps and i’m currently writing a blog for this am that will be up shortly with an audio excerpt from one of my vegas sets over the last 3 days. that one clip will very clearly show you what 10ssa is capable of!
January 5th, 2009 at 3:18 pm
mehow, this whole 10SSA thing looks freaking amazing! G’s views are close enough to mine that I can just say “what he said except for the bit about mooching” and save a paragraph or 3. Also like him, I can’t justify $400 for the product right now, though it is something I can use – I’m eventually going to add it to my collection. Bloody genius, that’s what. Thanks for throwing yourself into it so deeply.
You mentioned that NYE is a good night to go balls-out for the SNL. Any others you’d list with it? I live a couple hundred miles north of you, so the cultural cues should match. (For example, St. Pat’s might be good from our point of view, but not so useful for someone in Italy.)
January 7th, 2009 at 1:42 pm
Wolfie, halloween is also an excellent night for SNLs. conversley xmas and thanksgiving suck. -m
January 7th, 2009 at 3:22 pm
I’ve wore the same outfit for Halloween the last five years and have hooked up EVERY single year
January 7th, 2009 at 4:58 pm
Well damn! What the hell is this magic costume?
January 7th, 2009 at 5:13 pm
Baseball player
Its pretty lame. I wear normal clothes, just throw the shirt on and some eye-black…always works
January 8th, 2009 at 4:21 pm
Seriously? I wouldn’t have guessed that in a hundred years. I must ponder the reasons for its reliable success rate!
January 8th, 2009 at 5:30 pm
Lol Wolf, doesn’t have anything to do with the costume you wear. It’s the costumes women wear. When women put on those costumes, they act like different people. And women naturally want to do what men do, but can’t because of social repercussions. This is assuming Johnny is as epic as he claims, I want to see his facebook or myspace to judge myself.
January 11th, 2009 at 1:07 pm
Mehow,
Whats your opinion about masturbation and its effect on game?
I’m sure you’re familiar with all the discussions and viewpoints surrounding that topic.
newjack
January 11th, 2009 at 2:32 pm
LOL!
January 11th, 2009 at 3:37 pm
Newjack:
Every PUA worth his salt knows the rule: “When in doubt, squirt it out.”
January 11th, 2009 at 6:21 pm
You should already be masturbating in the Comfort phase. Right in the club. Can be used as a tactic as early as A3, but not effective as an opener. Field tested.
January 11th, 2009 at 6:58 pm
Anyone know any good techniques??
January 12th, 2009 at 5:12 pm
Yeah, post on Mehow’s blog.