Natural Stacking: Part 5 of 5
Attraction, Contingencies, Comfort, Day Game, and Putting it all together
By DJ Fuji

Hey guys,

Welcome to part 5 and the conclusion of our multi-segment series on natural stacking.

If you’ll recall from last time, we talked about false time constraints, transitions, and the naturalization process. These key components are what buy you enough time and compliance to run your attract material. Walking up to a set and saying “give me your hand” often results in defiance. But walking up to a set and opening socially, giving value by teasing, throwing a false time constraint, and then complimenting/transitioning…that will get you the compliance necessary to run pure kino or other attract material in nearly every set you open.

In this last section we’re going to talk about attraction, handling contingencies, stacking in day game and comfort, and putting it all together. Having read and studied each of the previous parts in this series, you should also have your routine stack nearly complete and ready to field test by now.

Let’s begin.
 
Running Attraction

Despite all of the differing styles and methods of game out there, most experts will agree that the first few steps involve opening and attracting. Now that we’ve systematically taught you how to open and what steps are necessary to transition to attraction, we can actually BEGIN to run attraction. One thing you’ll notice as you begin to naturalize your stack is that very soon after you get to attraction, the women will interrupt you to ask you interview-style questions or compliment you (which is an IOI). This is what we call “3-minute attraction.” The premise is this: When you approach a group of people well-dressed, exuding confidence, smiling, giving value, and exhibiting high value behaviors, most of your ‘attraction’ is already there. The only things left to do are escalate compliance through chase cycling and solidify attraction through the backwards rationalization principle we discussed in earlier articles. In this manner, attraction takes literally 3 minutes or less when done properly.

The transition to attraction is simple. Right after your compliment-transition (discussed in part 4), roll straight into your first attraction routine. This can be an IVD, Pure Kino(tm), a future adventure projection, banter, or any number of buying temperature and attraction (BT&A) routines. The Get the Girl! book has dozens of them. I’ve also posted my version of the ring routine cold read on the Get the Girl forums so feel free to try that out too.

The key here is to begin watching for IOIs and be ready to qualify. If in the middle of your PureKino routine you get interrupted and your target starts asking you interview-style questions (IOI), start testing for qualification. We use the “3 IOIs” as a general rule, but what you actually want is the refined field intuition which tells you when you’re ready to escalate forward.

You first want to test to make sure that you have enough attraction. This is done through a small hoop or directive. My favorite is telling my target “tell me something cool about you.” (Credit: Sinn). If she complies, you reward her per the Chase Cycling ™ model and follow the next steps. If she doesn’t, you handle the IOD per the Get the Girl! manual and take note that you need a bit more attraction still.

In either case, your stack has done its job. The beauty of it is that your stack has pulled double duty. It’s helped you focus on developing attractive behaviors and it’s gotten you past the most difficult part of the interaction. You’re now well on your way towards building comfort and further escalating.

Contingencies

Like an organic diamond, no interaction is ever truly flawless. There are always curveballs, logistical concerns, external and internal variables, and miscellaneous aspects affecting the outcome. Fortunately, the human brain has an amazing ability to adapt on-the-fly by taking in millions of different details about the environment and making constant micro-adjustments. Your skill level largely relies on your training, and subsequently, on your ability to effectively handle these changes in real-time. In the Marines, it is understood that no mission is ever carried out exactly according to plan. But in order to be prepared for these changes, we develop contingency plans. These plans are “what-if” scenarios which are designed to handle the most common alternate outcomes. In pickup, we do the same thing. While it’s infeasible to account for EVERY possible scenario in a pickup, we can prepare for the most common occurrences.

Some of these include:

• General IODs
• One girl in the set losing interest and being the “drag away” girl
• Shit Tests
• Interrupts
• AMOGs

The key to handling contingencies is a) having a plan, and b) learning from your mistakes.

Having a plan means for the five aforementioned scenarios, you have a generic handler for each. For example, you handle interrupts by using Mystery’s handler: “Hello, introduce me to your friend, it’s the polite thing to do.” Don’t clutter your mind thinking about 100 different ways to handle each contingency. You’ll never remember them in field. Come up with one generic handler for each scenario and adjust accordingly.

Learning from your mistakes means that occasionally you’ll run into a situation you’re not prepared for and you’ll screw something up. Learn from that experience. Write a field report and brainstorm for a solution so that the next time you’re in that situation, you have an answer. Then field test it and naturalize it as part of your repertoire.

The ability to handle any contingency or curve ball is what defines a skilled pickup artist and is what comes from field time and dedication.

Stacking in Comfort and Day Game

One question I get in nearly every workshop is “how do you stack in comfort or day game? Is it different?”

Let’s start with comfort. In comfort, your primary focus is NOT to generate more attraction. It’s to build rapport and connection. It’s where you get to open up and show your vulnerable side. Where you stop being the “evil clown” who just fucks with people and start being a real person with real feelings and real dreams and aspirations. In comfort you want to get to know each other. As such, the rigid nature of stacking in pure form tends to be counter-productive. What you want to do in comfort (technique wise) is free associate. This means you want to share commonalities and communicate through emotions and stories. When a girl tells you a story about how someone broke into her house one time, you might relate to the emotion of fear…and talk about how your little brother fell backwards off his high chair once and hit his head on the concrete and it scared the hell out of you. For the first time in your life, you realized how much he meant to you. One key difference between attraction and comfort is that in attraction you are BREAKING rapport. In comfort you are BUILDING it.

As for day game, an entire book could be written on it and how to formulate a day game stack, but the important thing to remember is that in day game, stacking follows the rule of subtlety. That is, everything in day game is more subtle. You’re not as loud. You’re not dressed as outrageously. You kino way less. You don’t break rapport as harshly. Basically, everything is toned down. One good thing about day game stacking is that many women during the day are not in social mode. Consequently, some will be shyer than in a nighttime environment and you’ll have to lead the conversation a bit more. This means having interesting things to say. And since you’re not as likely to have warm-up opportunities during the day, a stack comes in handy. Your day time stack should simply be a toned down and more situationally relevant version of your night game technique. Thus, situational openers are much more effective during the day than at night.

Putting it All Together

Those of you following this series now have—combined with the Get The Girl! Ebook—the tools necessary to give yourself a giant leap forward in your development. These two things alone have the potential to exponentially increase your results in field. But all of this knowledge is worthless without the one key trait that separates the winners from the losers:

Desire.

You have to want it. You have to taste it. You have to have that burning desire to better yourself and improve. That’s what makes a champion. You can have all the natural talent in the world but the guy who wants it more will beat you every time. Pickup is not unlike sports, career, or life in general. We all get dealt a different hand in life. But those of us who really go after our goals; who dream big and who take risks and make sacrifices…they are the ones who will taste success. To the victor go the spoils.

Chances are, you’ve already read way too much material. Don’t waste more time absorbing more product. Use these 5 articles and the Get the Girl! book and formulate your own stack. Just sit down and do your homework. Post your stack on the Get The Girl forums and we’ll help you revise it and make it solid. Then run it 200 times in field and report back on the results. There’s a reason there isn’t a single stack on the forums right now from someone asking for help. Because most people just don’t have it. 99% of the guys out there aren’t willing to put their time in and won’t ever get good. Make up your mind right now whether you want to be the 99% or the 1%.

I leave you with one of my favorite quotes, from former President Teddy Roosevelt:

“It is not the critic who counts, nor the man who points how the strong man stumbled or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena; whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly…who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, and spends himself in a worthy cause; who, at best, knows the triumph of high achievement; and who, at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat.”

Good luck and see you in the field,

-DJ Fuji
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