Hey Guys,

Dave C here, wanted to hit you guys up with a common misconception that is perpetuated by the community.

The Myth of Winging.

A lot of you guys probably hang out with wings but you’ve probably never realised that your game is only as good as your wings and vice versa.

Honestly, if you want results the best way to get them is to go out solo … meaning  you’re either going out by yourself or its just you and some girls (more on that from Mehow soon – he’s been running a ton of that game lately – the nightly “micro-entourage”)

But despite all that, most guys, especially guys starting out want a wing – to help them learn, or because they believe a good wing will get them more results (not true).

So we decided to give you this brief guide on when to fire your wing or keep him and tips on finding wings.

We’re giving you this guide because you’re going to get a wing even though Mehow told you not too.

A chain is only as strong as it’s weakest link and, depending on your choice of wing man, that link can make the difference between progression and stagnation when it comes to getting this area of your life handled.

So here’s the deal, the first challenge is finding a wing, in a typical grouping of people in your local area you’ll probably notice that there are only a couple of really good guys or at least consistent guys. Half the time they tend to keep to themselves or hang out with people at their level. They usually already have one or two good wingmen and that’s that.

However, their level of game is not the only factor in finding  a good wingman, you also need someone with similar goals and aspirations to you, someone you can grow with and who will help you over time. Ideally someone ‘normal’.

Ultimately it can take you a long time to find someone who has the right mix of qualities that would make you guys work together and become good friends.

If you’ve already found that then awesome, but I want to lay down some pitfalls of hanging out with traditional wings so you can avoid some of the traps that will slow you down on your journey.

1) Secrets of The Chode Crystal

Where you and your guy friends go out to sarge and end up in a circle, talking shop and half the guys are value scanning the room. If you are in a large enough group this will actually create negative social proof in a room, so that when you do finally open a set you are working from a much more challenging situation right off the bat.  The set knows that you were just hanging out for 15 minutes in a big circle of dudes ruminating upon the chode crystal.

The best situation, if with a wing, is always just you and your wing ONLY around the chode crystal, facing each other and slowly rotating and subtly pointing out where hot sets are for each other.  Look over each others shoulders and don’t rotate your head to value scan the room.  Always face your wing and use your eyes to scan.  If you need to look elsewhere slowly rotate around the chode crystal.  When doing this don’t talk game, have fun conversations with your wingman by all means, it’ll help you get talkative but remember you guys are out to meet women.

2) Dependency

Just like alcohol dependency, having a dependency of any kind on your wings, will make your self development suffer massively. Some guys will go out with wings so that their friend can open and they can just come in to wing, others will go so far as to not leave the house to go sarging at all if they are without support.

To test if you’re dependent then answer the following questions:

A) Do you go out if you have no other guys to roll with you?

B) Can you look after a 2 – 4 set on your own without needing someone to come wing you?

C) Do you feel fine when you are out on your own?

If the answer to these are no then you may be a little too dependent.

This level of dependency will sacrifice your long term growth.

3) Personalities

You’ll notice that the community will have a lot of personalities and drama it in.  These are all fire-able offenses.

a) The ‘Game’ Guy

We’ve all hung out with a guy like this at one point or another, all he does is talk about game, his success level and what he wants to do next. It’s impossible to have a conversation where you can relate to each other on any level and it feels like he’s always qualifying himself to you.

b) The Alcoholic

This is the guy who always has a few or way to much to drink, starts to miscalibrate terribly and cause a lot of unnecessary drama. This guy tends not to add too much value to the set and will only be able to hook up with girls at his level of drunk or worse.

c) The Adviser

The guy who gives everyone else advice on what they need to work on to put him in state but who never seems to be doing anything, he will often be found in the centre of the chode crystal.  Sometimes he *is* the chode crystal. In some cases he’ll even be pushing others into set rather then doing anything himself.

d) The Indecisive

This is the guy who isn’t sure if he’s coming out, where to go if he does come out and can’t even decide if he wants to stay once he gets somewhere, he’ll also constantly be trying new material even though he hasn’t gotten any success from most of what he’s tried.

e) The Gossip

This guy is gossiping about what is going on in the community, on both a ‘guru’ level and with the local guys, this will lead to him starting rumours, reputations and even bad mouthing people if he disagrees with their philosophy in life.

f) The Statue

This guys shows up and goes all wallflower on your ass. Can be seen standing around doing nothing for large periods of time.  Usally the statue says stuff like, “None of these girls are hot enough.” or “There are guys in that set.”

g) The Egomaniac

The guy who believes he is awesome and goes out of his way to elevate how good he is by bragging all the time or writing field reports for validation, he’ll also try to always advise you by letting you know what x ‘guru’ had to say about that kind of thing.

h) The Hanger-ON

If you get to a decent level in game then you will find wings who are simply with you to take value, they know they talk to more girls when out with you, you know what you are doing and they will ask you a million questions whilst not adding much to your game or night out. Watch out for these guys.

i) The Natural

These guys are great at talking to women, but they seldom have any idea about how to wing and will show up in your set at the most in-opportune times, they will also steal girls away from those who are just starting out. You can learn from a natural but they won’t be able to teach you exactly what they do themselves.

4) Friends

Some guys already know the perils of going out with a community guy so enlist the help of their friends, this is fine with the caveat that your friend knows the score. Rolling out with random guys and friends who have no idea what you are up to will lead to them trying to jump in your sets and winging you badly, or worse still they will attempt to AMOG you.

So What Can You Do?

If you have a wing you do get a long with and who helps you grow then that’s fine, just remember you can become limited by either his level or a dependency on him.

Generally winging doesn’t help you because it almost always comes with any or many of the above zillion taxes.

But if you can find a tax free wing then you’re good.

The way you do that is the same thing Mehow taught me in business… to have a good team you have to end up screening and firing a lot of people.

However, ff you’re in a “weird wing” situation as listed above and are able to take the initiative and take action regardless to what your wing(s) are doing then you will find yourself avoiding the traps mentioned and you will find your success is wing independent.

Typically a guy who wants to rock the venue can follow the 90% rule, the very basic tenet is that you are in set 90% of the night. This for most people can be the difference between and amazing night and a poor one. It builds a high level of social proof, it keeps you in state, warmed up and builds massive momentum for you as the night goes on.

This means no breaks to talk shop with wings, just action, train yourself to do this and you’ll find that by the third set of the night not only are you getting social proof in the venue but you’ll be having fun and really no longer worried about the outcome.  The action train leads to running the train with you in the lead and maybe your wings getting some too.

Funnily enough once you start using the 90% rule you’ll soon realise that half the time you don’t even see your wingman for nearly the whole night.

What about groups?

So some of you guys are probably thinking: “Ok, but how do I handle that two-set without a wing to get my back.”

The answer of this is fairly simple and anyone that has already read 10SSA will be in the know but the structure for this is very simple.

After qualifying both (hooked) girls you need to SOI the target (“This girl is a total disaster, I’m going to hit on her all night, you guys cool with that?”) and then start into mid-game with her, if you are using 10SSA then the obstacle will most likely want to stick around because of all the emotional value you are bringing.

If not then you use the SOI to call out whenever the obstacle is being a cockblock, this is done whenever she tries to steal your target away from her.

Examples include:

“Look, while you were away me and your friend, we got married, we had kids… What were their names again? Oh, yea… Mary, James and Adolf… Yea, she named the last kid Adolf, that’s why we had to get a divorce.”

“You again, are you the cause of her singletude?”

“Three’s years in therapy and we’re still on this?”

“I’m going to put you on my new TV show … it’s called ‘Cock Blockers’?”

You get the idea.

Now it’s up to you to decide whether to roll out with wings but remember, make sure they are the right guy(s) for you to grow with and don’t be dependent on them, this is your journey, your story and the only one responsible for your progress is you.

Peace.

-D

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Unlearning your mistakes (And how not to make them in the first place)

For many of you out there practicing, you may head out several times a week and for a while you get better, numbers, kiss closes and then the occasional full close. Then your success seems more stilted, it seems harder to work out where you are and even what to work on next.

I’ve met many of you guys in my last 2 years in the community both practicing and more recently, teaching. The one thing that stands out the most are guys that never learnt the correct habits, they never learnt the fundamentals that were necessary for their success and whilst they can get to a limited and in some cases, good level, it’s ultimately their bad practices that are holding them back.

What makes this even harder to fix is that if you’ve been going out, week in and week out sarging, then you’ve most likely engrained these bad habits, they are part of how you present yourself and consequently they can be very difficult to fix or even notice without conscious persistence.

The worst part of all is that without feedback from a good wing or an instructor at a decent level you may never realise the mistakes you are making. This is why we have to use all the feedback mechanisms available to us when we learn PU.

There are several feedback mechanisms, such as the way girls respond to you, forums and your wings. The problem is that each of these by themselves is never enough to give you a complete picture but rather pieces of feedback that you may be ignoring.

It’s also important to cultivate a mentality shift, a lot of guys learn this and go: “Oh… I got a blow out, next!” This is helpful when you have just started out approaching but not useful for getting you the skill set.

Instead we want to ask, ‘How can I improve this?” If she got dragged away by her girlfriend how can you stop that from happening next time? Now not everything set will be winnable, if a girl gets dragged away by her boyfriend then pretty much no one can solve that interrupt but you get the idea.

If there is a fix available you should learn it and implement it. Your mentality become “How can I do this better / faster / more consistently?”

The steps we can take right now:

Step 1: Recognize the pattern

There is simply no substitute for going out infield and clocking up usable field time either alone or with a coach / good wing or solo. However we can take steps to minimise the mistakes being made. The most simple way is through drills and exercises you can do today to help you maximise everything from body language to contingencies.

Solving Body Language: Walk up to a mirror (or a good wing) and get a critique on just your opener. Did you smile when you walked up? Were you loud enough? Did you lean in? Did you kino on the open? Any weird or extraneous body movement? There are a couple 100 mistakes you can make just on the walk up. Fix them before you even go out to meet women.

Vocal Projection: Go somewhere private, put on some music, turn it up loud and practice projecting your voice.

Learning to move Forward: Write FR’s, after every night you get back and note down what you did write and what you did wrong and where your sticking points are. Then when you go out next, make sure you go out with the goal to work on the issues you need to solve.

Infield Reactions: You need to always observe why the girls are blowing you out, and never leave a set unless the girl walks away or verbally tells you to leave. This is the test of your verbals and subcomms. Ideally on a night out. To really push yourself you want to be in set 90% of the time.

If something goes wrong infield then work out if it was something you were putting out there or just a product of the environment you were sarging in. In essence be analytical and work on yourself.

Step 2: Break it

Once you’ve acquired real feedback on what patterns and mistakes are repeating themselves, it’s time to break that habit. This is simply having two things:

1) A plan of what you are going to work on

2) Conscious effort and a few sets.

Remember it takes time for a new habit to become engrained over the old one, just like anything else, much like when you try to stop holding a glass in front of your chest you’ll have to be ever present to stop yourself from flicking back into your old habits.

More Basics To Unlearning your Mistakes or Rules:

1) Choosing a method and sticking to it.

If you are anything like me when I first started I would read all the methods, all the forums and take in all the advice. The problem was it caused a never ending loop of information overload. I had a head full of advice, often completely contradictory, and I’d always be working on trying a new idea out every week when I was still having trouble opening and getting attraction completely. As you can imagine this was an instant fail.

2) Get a stack

You need a good stack that will complete the attraction stage, get a GTG stack because it alleviates 90% of approach anxiety when you know what you’re doing, all I have to do is say “Yo, what’s up!” and I’m in. It also helps you sort out where mistakes are and contingencies. Even naturals have something like “Hi, my name is…”. Ideally create a stack that puts you in a good state and makes you laugh.

3) Know how to handle contingencies and interrupts.

I used to roll with two naturals and an MM gamer and none of them could handle interrupts or shit tests at all. They would consistently lose the set because of this and 99% of the time it could be avoided. The best resource for this is the contingencies section of the GTG book because it is just all there and relevant.

4) Expand your comfort zone.

I started going out in-field in June 07, I spent the first 9 months opening and ejecting, and I needed to, my comfort zone was so small that it made me feel good just to talk to a woman back then. I also dramatically changed my look in that time. Realize that if you aren’t pushing yourself you won’t get results but if you push yourself a little even if it takes a full year, you will grow.

5) Have set days

You need to set days or times to go out  and not allow yourself to stay home. These are sarge night, no excuses, no I feel tired or out of state. These are full on hardcore 90% of time in set nights and you don’t take AFC friends who you’ll end up talking to all night.

6) Self-correct and evaluate.

Never getting past attraction? Why? Read the appropriate resources, study it, seriously make notes on it. It’s amazing what you will miss on a simple read through. Always work out why attraction died, or comfort failed. Sometimes there is nothing you can do, but make sure that it’s not on your part. This is best done in FR’s or when you get home. NOT THE NEXT DAY.

7) Don’t over-browse resources

Once you’ve picked your resource don’t read every technique or forum because you’ll get sucked into other peoples thinking style and get stuck questioning what you are doing. Information overload is a very real problem in the community today. Remember once you get your basic game down you can start adding in new pieces from anywhere.

So, what this all boils down to is fundamentals, whether we are learning PU or basketball these are what make or break our results. Take any professional sport, the top guys all have there fundamentals down, it’s what separates them from the guys that look good until you get them in a competitive environment, the guys with the fundamentals always win.

Expect a period of failing before you get good.

Start building yours now.

- Dave C

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by Dave and Royce

Hey guys,

So, we covered 2/3’s of the interaction so far, this is where things get interesting and wet.

If you’ve successfully pulled off the first two steps, Attraction and Mid-game, then it’s time to pull the trigger and get things moving towards the pull.

This is where we break some of the more common rules of PU down.

Firstly, you need to seed the pull, this is actually surprisingly easy because what you need to do is seed with something universal, something that women from all over the world love and yet something that gives her the plausible deniability that women often need to let shit go… all the way down.

Ben & Jerry’s ice cream…

We have yet to travel to a continent in which girls can resist this ice cream, if you haven’t got any ice cream to pull her to don’t fret. You see the simple handler is “Oh… my housemate must have eaten it…” But so far not once during our difficult exploits of pulling girls back have we ever been reminded that we offered them and didn’t have it.

The verbals for the ice cream bounce involve oveselling like so:  “We have … the best … and I mean *the best* … Ben and Jerry’s flavor … ever.  This ice cream is sooo good that five years from now, when you’re having our first baby, and you’re in all that pain and the epidural hasn’t kicked in yet … your going to close your eyes and you will think of this flavor.”

Because the real reason is that the girl wants to keep partying with you due to all the attractive qualities you’ve demonstrated.

Remember you can always pull the group, just make sure that there is someone or something to maintain the comfort levels. As we were saying in the previous blog posts comfort is contagious in such a way that if you run comfort on people around her (that do speak better English) that it will also have a positive effect on your target.

However, before we delve into that section there is one other thing you ideally want to do, you need to kino escalate on her high points, if you’ve executed everything right we actually recommend getting a k-close with the target followed by an subtle non-verbal takeaway that sub-communicates that it’s partly her fault that you made out with her. The simple reason is that she needs to know the interaction is going somewhere even though she still needs plausible deniability. Just make sure you end the make out first, you can do this by putting your pointer finger on her lip as if you where stopping her.

So on the way back, with group in tow, make sure you give a second group SOI, to the obstacles so they know what’s going on, it can be as simple as “Hey, this one is trouble… more then most of the French girls… I’m gonna hit on her all night, you ok with that?” Usually one person in the group will speak English, we found there was always one and they will translate and everyone will be down if you’ve ran the set tight so far.

Once you get the group back, have something to entertain the obstacles, for example alcohol, Ben & Jerry’s or just a movie. Whilst everyone is entertained grab the target and tell her “I’m gonna give you the tour.” And pull her around the house, end the tour in your room. Once you get her the room a good way to start escalating kino quickly is something simple like a massage, you can also show her a youtube clip on your laptop and have her sit on your lap.

Add takeaways as necessary when you hit resistance, rinse and repeat.

Well, that’s it for now… Hopefully you guys can see from our last 3 articles the importance of sub-communication on a non-verbal level. We also hope that you realize that this isn’t really just for foreign girls, if you tighten this stuff up in your regular game you will see drastic improvements also.

Royce & Dave,

Research and Development

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by Dave and Royce

So, last time we went over how to attract a girl who has a loose grasp of the English language. Now we need to address the qualification and mid-game.

Qualification – Through Statements:

Generally with qualification you can’t throw big hoops or get her to invest in stories of her life, so the key to qualification is instead – to make statements. The easiest way to calibrate this is when she kinos you, you throw a qualifying statement such as:

“You are fun”

“I like your energy”

“You’re actually a pretty cool girl… for being French”

At the same time, you want the girl to be investing in the interaction by working for you, this can be little things like moving with you, getting you a drink or generally complying with any of your requests.

When she does this you can throw a qualification statement to keep the interaction smooth, this subtly rewards her efforts.

Note: When sarging foreign women, you don’t ask big qualification directives such as “What’s your special secret super power?”.  Also, you don’t IOD her after qualifying her with an IOI.

For example -  In normal sarging, if she said she is an accountant you would say, “No way.  Accountants turn me on.  I love that about you.  But it would be weird if you woke up next to me and said, ‘baby, there are 865 tiles in your ceiling.’” In foreign girl sarging it’s very simple if you use an IOD at all:

<she acts fun> “You are fun.” or “I like your energy” or “You’re actually a pretty cool girl … for being French”

Building Comfort – Through Implicit Communication:

Whilst getting investment from the girl it’s key you get her comfortable with being around you even though she has trouble understanding you, the key concepts are below.

Leading: This is the most important concept, if a girl can’t understand what’s going on through explicit communication then your implicit or non-verbal sub-communications will take precedent, in fact most communication is non-verbal anyway. So leading the group or the girl, making decisions and being decisive are extremely attractive and very easy to demonstrate just by taking action. Which leads us to our next point.

Leading the Group: This also falls under leading but with a key difference, chances are that you will win the group over (if any of them speak English) faster then you would win your target over, for that reason they are the perfect tool to sub-comm the above attractive traits whilst you are sarging, they can also be used to help translate between you and your target. If you are leading the group but want the one girl that can’t speak English then you’ll need this concept.

Moving: You want to move your girl around the venue as much as you can.  Great places to go are to merge your target with other groups you have already opened that are fluent in your language.  Then the sets you merge into can also translate as if they were part of your target’s set.  This is particularly great when you merge your target with a set that has a fluently speaking girl that is hotter then your target.

Bouncing: You want the girl to go to a wide variety of places, but no longer just for the time distortion, but also to show you are a leader and to create a sense of you and her having an adventure. Which is extremely stimulating considering she doesn’t understand half of what you are saying.

Reciprocating Friendliness: This is huge, she has to see that you are a fun and friendly social guy, one of the easiest ways to do this is  to have other sets in the room that you can talk to (ones that are fluent in your language) during a takeaway to build jealousy and communicate the next important point.

Jealousy: While leading, leading the group, moving, bouncing etc. you will be constantly creating jealousy between your target and the other women you interact with.  Whereas in a normal sarge you spend most of your time in isolation – in a foreign girl sarge, you spend most of your initial time working with the groups around you while you take your target along for the ride.

Being Un-needy: It is key that you’re a non-needy guy who is just out having fun and being social, this is communicated in your takeaways, your body language and your vibe. You are never all up on the girl or coming across too seriously.

Proximity Kino: If you have proximity kino with your target whilst doing all the above you will be getting her attention and touch, builds a huge amount of trust and rapport even when there is a shared language.

Do all these things and women will find themselves consistently being pulled out of a venue by you, despite not understanding a word you say. What’s even more useful is that the above principles, whilst key to foreign sarging, are extremely important to regular sarging too and mastering them anywhere will see a huge boost in your game.

Now we’ve laid down the start and mid-game… we’ll hit you guys back with the end game soon.

So, stay tuned

- Royce & Dave

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by Dave and Royce

Royce and Dave  here… and yes, we are finally recovered from the MCIP New Years Paris Invasion 2010.

This is a New Years ritual that started a few years ago, the MCIP and G12 programs join forces and have a freakin ball, last year was Copenhagen, this year Paris, next year who knows, but we are going to rock it, wherever it is

Picture 4 instructors, 2 instructors in training and 4 G12 guys … You can imagine the trouble we got into.

But, don’t worry it wasn’t all girls all the time, we took some time out to see the sights as well.

Now, what’s interesting about Paris is that unlike many other European cities, is that the women don’t predominantly speak English as a 2nd language, what’s even more challenging is that the ones that are able to only speak very basic English and the compliance to get them to do that, is 4x higher than any other country I’ve been to. Compare this to places such as Amsterdam or Berlin where all the girls speak near perfect English; this is a whole level harder.

Luckily there’s a fix. And, we are here to tell you what it is.

We spent days of pain staking time talking to some of the most gorgeous women in Paris just so we could figure this out for you guys, no need to thank us.

To start… we are going to briefly explore the structure critical to foreign sarging, interestingly all the same elements you regularly use are present, it’s the ratio that changes along with the way you sub-communicate these attractive qualities.

As you can imagine if you can’t communicate effective verbally, you gotta show the girls that you are still that high social value, attractive guys that we know you’ll be, if you’ve studied with Mehow for any period of time.

Now, the girls will still need to be able to speak a little English, but for the most part as long as you don’t need to explain quantum physics it should be cool.

In general – you apply the same structure as always. Attraction, midgame and endgame. However you need to play each of these phases differently and we will explain to you how.

First we are going to take a look at four concepts that are key in the attraction phase of foreign sarging.

1) Value Velocity drags massively when you are sarging a girl in her 2nd language this means non-verbal communication is key.

2) You mustn’t seek rapport, but break it on the open.

3) Jealousy / being a fun social guy.

4) Leading.

Let’s look at each of these separately to get a good idea of what’s happening.

Value Velocity:

Imagine that you only have the basic grasp of English, now imagine everything your friend is saying in English you have to translate and then respond to it in English… it takes some effort and you’re not going to get all the nuances and cultural references. Even worse unless you really like the person you’re talking to, is how likely are you to put the effort in?

Then take into the account that most of what you say has to be emotionally stimulating, but only half of that comes across, your VV is massively decreased and you’ll need to work twice as hard for just as much compliance. This is why non-verbal communication is key.

Rapport:

The moment you come into a set speaking a foreign language the girl is going to judge your social value and perceived value in the club, furthermore just by speaking another language she’s going to make a harsher judgement compared to others.

She can’t understand you.

Most guys make the mistake of going in and ’screening’ by asking if the girls speak English.  This is actually a rapport seeking question and the quickest way to get the girl to shut you down in a nightlife environment. Counter intuitive to some but true.  Bottom line you will get no compliance from her if you try the conventional approach.

Jealousy:

When there is a big language barrier it’s much harder to convey your awesome personality.  One of the best ways to make the girl realize how awesome you are, is to let her see that other girls like you.   This is hugely important to show pre-selection.

In Addition: Remember that the exotic is always in some way attractive, and you have the advantage of being a tourist  and that you will not be there much longer, so it actually becomes easier to SNL and harder to take numbers.  I mean -  if she has trouble understanding you – the phone is hardly a useful tool. You also have a very real time constraint in the form of being a tourist (whether you are or not) and this is insanely useful.

Leading:

If she can’t understand from what you say that you are the leader of men, there’s a much easier way, take the lead. Not only with her but also with people around you. This doesn’t just mean getting her to do stuff for you, but actively moving her and taking control.

So, now we have the core concepts for attraction we are going to show you how it’s put into play through looking at just one of the nights Royce did in Paris.

Application:

The first step to attraction is a non-verbal pre-opener or a takeaway on the open, what this means is that you get the girls attention and then non-verbally show your disinterest in her.

Generally this takes the form of any of the following:

• Patting her on the head whilst telling her how little she is.

• Grabbing her hand, turning it palm down and slapping it whilst saying “bad girl.”

• Turning sideways and brushing your shoulder off disdainfully at her.

All these things are done playfully.

The next step is simply a compliance test (such as a hi-5 and spin) + a takeaway to set up the chase cycle. Typically both of these are also non-verbal with the takeaway being your body rocking away.

From here you’ll often find girls pulling you back, which is where you can throw a compliance test to gauge how to continue the sarge with a screening question:

“Can you speak English?”

This is 10x more powerful then just going in with this directive right off the bat as doing so would be seeking rapport.

When the above sequence is done right the girl is going to make a strong move towards what your social value is. (How well you are groomed, your sub-coms and whether you’re her ‘type’.)

So, that’s it in a nutshell on how to start sarging women whose predominant language isn’t English.

So, get out there and try it out.

More to come soon,

-Royce & Dave

The Research and Development Division

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Also, if you love a challenge just for fun then this article is absolutely for you.

When you’re in field sometimes you get a shit test/IOD such as, “Is that a pickup line?”  usually that’s because you fucked up your delivery and/or  your value velocity is low.

So, you handle the shit test as per all the different ways I taught you.

But, sometimes you just keep getting the same lame, “you’re trying to pick me up, aren’t you” bs even after the handler or you get it for no reason at all right up front the second you open your mouth.

This second phenomenon is typically because for whatever reason she’s really resisting being flirted with in any form.  Possible reasons include (in order of likely hood):

1. She knows you’re a natural “player” or pro “pua”.  This shouldn’t happen to you guys (never talk about the Fight Club!) but to me it happens all the time b/c well … people have seen the videos, the website, etc.

2. She’s just not in the mood, maybe some random asshole just broke her heart or something.

3. She’s already put you in a box in her head – like this guy is a customer, so i can’t have any fun with him.

Now, if you think about this, this behavior on the woman’s part just doesn’t make any sense at all.  And every once in a blue moon just likes to call women on their bullshit on top of making them laugh.

There are bunch of problems with the girls behavior in this case.  The behavior is bad for her, and it’s bad for you.  In fact, its just a giant waste of precious life energy.

Both 1 and 2  and 3 are predicated on being an issue if and only if she has sex with me.  If nothing is going to “happen” then it’s all just a conversation.

First off it’s really, really presumptuous of a woman to actually think that everybody is out to get in her pants … I know that they constantly think this is the case because 99% of men behave that way but .. NO REALLY … I could be talking to you in a flirty manner because I want:

1. Networking for resources other then sex.  My charm could go up to 11 simply because I’d like to have a smooth working relationship.  Although you shouldn’t use charm at work to get laid (all sorts of possible problems with that) .. charm is useful because it wins you loyalty and groovy working relationships.  You just can’t cross the line into an actual sarge, that perceived line varies form woman to woman.

2. I just want to be friends and want her in my social circle

3. I’m intrigued and haven’t decided at all whether she’d be fun to have a relationship with.

4. I’m totally just using her for jealousy and social proof on another girl.

5. I really dig her and want to rail the living daylights out of her, for one night only.

6. I want to have a relationship.

7. I’m simply providing free value because i want nothing at all and it just makes me feel good to make other people smile.

Note that, when you live in the land of plenty, like we do ALL OF THE TIME, you are simply screening or talking to women for reasons other than 5 or 6 90% of the time. Once you have the skill set you are only actually trying to sleep with 1 in 10 of the women you talk to.  So already any response like, “does that line work?” (if not caused by bad delivery on your part) is highly presumptuous.

But, for the sake of argument let just assume that 5 and 6 are always true.

So, then she’s constantly resisting the possibility of your cock in her future.

And again remember that I’m not talking about the scenario here where you caused the shit test or IOD, I’m talking about when she wants to have fun, but will logically block it because of some bs reason – so you’re only running this scenario when you 200% sure that she’s just operating on bs not because your charm is actually a 3 when you think its an 11.  So, this article is really for guys that are further along in their game progress.  The techniques below will only work if you know that at some level she likes you, but she’s just hung up about it.

The bs resistance is always silly though, she’s getting free value with no strings attached, yet ruining it all because she assumes it comes with mandatory cock.

Now, I know that we’re really good at what we do, but there isn’t anything in the whole wide world I can do to make a woman have sex with me.

It’s always her choice.

It’s not like when I talk about being a nerd and my first kiss in middle school she’s going to be on her knees a minute later.  Yet, everything you say as a pro is always very emotionally engaging and fun for her.

But, even when my charm goes up to 11.5, she still always has a choice to say no to the cock no matter how giant, disease free, or appealing it may be.

So, literally when women do this style of bullshit mental resistance they are just fucking up having their own good time by being out of the moment and in their head.  A fun conversation, is just that, a fun conversation.  No reason to ruin the fun vibe due to “cock fear.”

So, I have a stack for dealing with this specific problem.  It works great on hired guns shit testing/IODing you too.

First off, I heavily, heavily disqualify her so she gets all the presumptions out of her head.  I’ll run harsh, harsh “unintentional/plausibly deniable” takeaway game on her to put her in her place.

For example, I’ll do stuff like use hilarious yet insane IODs like, “you have the personality of a fat girl” with no explanation.  Another great one it run mad, mad jealousy.  Like find a set thats hotter then she is, bring them all together and then run the conversation with all of them for a bit.  Hot women are always humbled when they meet a woman that’s hotter then they are.  Also take another girl and get stupid physical with her right in front of her.  Jealousy works, period.  Sometimes I’ll just go to these lengths to educate someone for fun.  If she’s a really hater i’m just going to flaunt it right in front of her in a borderline tacky manner.

That usually does the trick.  But, if after all that you’re still getting, “Thats a line, isn’t it” its time to just call her out on it, 10SSA high VV style.
(you can also do this technique first then follow it up with the harsh IODs)

her: <some you’re a pickup artist bs>
you: “Wait … are you afraid that if you just keep staring into my awesome blue eyes … you’re going to want some cock?”
her: “no” (laughter)
you: “Ok good … just keep staring into my eyes then … no keep staring … it’s ok … yes, I call them blue steel.” (do this with mischievous I’m really fucking with you delivery while you kino her arm)
She’s going to laugh and break the stare war first.  Then let go of her arm.  You win. You win because your making fun of her presumption that somehow something you do is going to make her mandatorily want the cock.

I’ve even done stuff like this in set once she’s already been broken a bit …

hb: <more you’re a player bs>
you: “Lady, how often does a man this awesome hit on you?”
her: (laughter)
you: “Cause you know that if you keep staring at the Mona Lisa … she’s going to make you pregnant.”

Bottom line, any woman behaving this way is being a freaking idiot and you can call her on it.  I love to clown the living daylights out of girls sporting this attitude.  If a woman you would never sleep with (like an actual fatty) walked up to you and was all fun and un-creepily hitting on you then you would simply enjoy it instead of being all, “Is that a pickup line?”    In fact I love just hanging out with fun fat girls every once in a while because they are simply fun.

Or you can simply not bother and move on to another girl thats isn’t sporting a wooden personality due to bs issues.

-mehow

P.S. We announced Tuesday that we just put up a whole workshop schedule with dates on Valentines Day weekend and Locations in Amsterdam, London, Arizona and many more… so, go on over and sign up for one of these new affordable accelerated one day workshops.

Mehow here,

Welcome to 2010!

I predict that this year there will be a major shift in how society perceives social interaction.

The biggest reason is we’re going huge here at the Co. and it’s our job to enlighten people. (later this week I’m going to share with you some amazing stories of what happened when 10 of our instructors and G12 students invaded Paris for New Years, photos included

Women will pay attention. Most men won’t.

But, there will be increased competition in the dating pool as more men skill up.

In fact it seems like increasingly society is becoming aware of it’s own problem.

For example, go rent “500 Days of Summer” (it’s out on iTunes etc.) – that’s actually a highly realistic Hollywood portrayal of what really goes on.
(go watch the movie and then read my p.s. below).

So, how do you stay ahead of the curve in an increasingly enlightened environment?

Bottom line, those that are conscious that there is a problem or simply aware of what’s going on… doesn’t even remotely make them good at doing it.

For example, being aware that there are notes, and theory in music doesn’t actually make you a good musician.

To be a good musician you have to implement.

And, since very few people will drink the Kool Aid(even though I’m making it available to practically everybody) you can get started now and always be ahead.

In the upcoming “Accelerated Attraction SystemTM” there are over 60 teases, 30 projections, 30 PureKinoTM routines, fully half of them never even before revealed at live events.

That’s a mind expanding 3600 possible combinations (not counting variants).

But, you still need to just do ONE correctly.
(if you pre-ordered the AAS then you will get it way before the actual Feb launch in two separate shipments)

So, what can you do to get the skill set going now…

Join the g12 training program here
(were doing 15 day trials for Jan, 2010 – space is whacky limited – we teach you how to use AAS)

- or become one of our coaches (apps open again through the 15th – if you want a full time job you can have one – they pay $72,000 on average) – Check it out here

- Or get the 10ssa System here

- or if you want to start at lowest cost get the GTG Collectors set here

- or work on your inner game with Hypnotica’s Ultimate Inner Game here

- or take a live event with me or one of our ninja coaches here

- or check out what we are offering in one place here

Bottom line, if you’re not clicking on one of the links above and taking action then you’re going to get eaten by a giant super volcano in the upcoming apocalypse. It’s the new year and you need to take action. I know its difficult for some, I’ve been there, but if you do nothing….

-mehow

P.S. Thanks for all the notes of appreciation for the free transcripts we released on the blog. Joz spent a ton of time on those to make sure they were perfect and you guys loved them.
P.P.S If you pre-ordered the AAS – the new warehouse is online and we’ll be emailing you to get your bonus insiders out to you in the next few days.
P.P.P.S Here are my notes on “500 Days of Summer”: If there ever was a Hollywood film that depicted the battle between the matrix and reality accurately it’s this movie. She’s reality, but reality still wants to believe in fate, even though the facts are against it. That ending scene is perfect. The whole movie – it’s all realistic other then she picked him up. The whole ikea role-play was right out of a PU book. Women and people only respond to value not semi religious faith based beliefs in Santa Claus To see the light you have to hit bottom. The facts are all there right before us, yet hardly anyone wakes up – the funny thing is that people see the evidence all the time yet don’t correct their behavior. The difference between those that do and those that don’t is whether love and fate are your personal mere hopes or your personal religion.