I woke up this morning and realized that the question queue has been piling up, and that we have been so busy giving value I never got around to answering some of the mail bag questions.
So I thumbed through the pile and found a great question to answer today.
This one comes from “R” – apparently one of our younger subscribers.
Here’s his question:
What do I do when a girl has big expectations?
Let me provide an example:
I was at a school event (battle of the bands) and in front of me is a girl who I know. I was with my buds and were rocking, cracking jokes, generally having a good time, when this girl whispers to her friend.
Then, she turns around and her friend says: “yea the one in the hoodie is R. (me)” she gives me a smile and stares like I’m supposed to do a back flip or pull a rabbit out of my ass.
She keeps looking; I go “hay there” then smile. She turns around and goes back to her friend.
What do I do? She gave me this look like “hay if you are what my friend tells me you are. You’re pretty sweet. So do something cool.”
I feel like I just popped a huge balloon.
Another example:
I was with a girl shopping and she sees some of her friends “aieeeeeeeee” big scream.
Glass breaks. Children cry. Not really.
But they exchange hugs and she introduces me (she seemed quite proud to be introducing me. Something that is sweet and I gotta do the next time I introduce someone).
Anyway one of her friends gives me a look, like she wanted to blow me right there.
Coy smile. Big eyes.
Obviously, I’ve been the “victim” of some gossip. So that friend tags around again looking like I should go Mystery in her ass, and do some card tricks, maybe vanish an Elephant.
I am my usual self. And the first girl and I leave later.
But I can’t help but feel like I was built up to be this big thing, only to fall short. How do I handle this?
-R.
Here’s the answer to your question “R”.
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